This IS a competitive business my friend, probably THE most competitive in the world.Ignored
We all use metaphors to understand our experience. Many traders use the concept of "somebody is out to get me" and "playing to win" to keep their focus. And I say, if it keeps you on your toes, it probably will help help you.
I prefer the metaphor of the Cambodian farmer trying to make his living during the Vietnamese war. Mines are real. They were placed there as an act of war. They will blow your leg off. However, nobody was trying to blow the leg off of that particular farmer and whether or not the farmer gets to keep his leg is irrelevant to the war games the big boys are playing.