Well,
that's great wisdom you know. I wonder if you are willing to share how specifically you dig in and find out what you really want. Not some of the normal stuff that are in our heads due to the reason we allow them to be there but are not our own choices.
Some of us been trained loooong years to seek security, job and all sort of familiar things. How you find what is really in your heart. Say one loves trading. Trading itself is means to get to something else something deeper. Trading provides something to traders- achievement enjoyment I don't know. Honestly I don't believe anyone that is long in trading does it for money only. It is not easy and brings quite a lot of setbacks and disappointments initially to leave on the field only people that love it and are very committed.
Thanks
8 Years ago a person I met could not find a job. Was having a hard time paying the bills, was under a lot of pressure. She was stressed and complained about it, like many people do. I will tell you what I told her.
Brace yourself, you may not like it.
You want to find the blame of your problems? Go look in the mirror! You want to complain about the issues your having? Complain about yourself!
Figure out what you want, that is the first step to getting what you want. Figure out what you want that will help you get what you want in step one. That is the second step. Keep repeating. Do not give up until you get what you want originally.
If you are working towards what you want, you will get it. If you are working towards something someone else wants that you do not to in order to try to get it, you normally won't get what you want, nor will they get what your trying to give them.
She wanted to be able to support herself. So she was looking for a job and working for others. She didn't want to work for someone else, she wanted to work for herself.
See the conflict in what she wanted, and what she was doing? See the results she was getting? It was no surprise to me.
When she finally figured out I was not going to accept excuses and reasons why she couldn't nor was I going to let her give up, and she started thinking about ways she could and wanted those as well, and did those instead, she got what she wanted. She owns her own business.
Quit looking at the reasons you cant and reject them when others bring them up. Look at the ways you CAN.
Myself? I am a 9th grade high school dropout. What kind of future did I have when I quit school? It was pretty bleak for me right? Yes, many fail at many different things and have a hard time in life.
Me? In 2000 I wanted a job that required a college degree, and I wanted it at a specific company. I had never worked in the field so had no experience either. At first they would not even talk to me, when they finally did they gave me every reason in the book they would not hire me. Guess what? I wanted that job, I kept at it, I refused to accept their excuses of why I could not get it, I refused to give up on what I wanted.
I got that job with no degree, no experience, with everyone telling me no all along the way including my own friends trying to get me to give up on it. Was it instant? No, it took me almost a year. Was it easy? No. Was it worth it? Yes.
I left that job after 6 years, that was almost 5 years ago. I no longer wanted to work for someone else, I did not want to have to worry about a schedule, I wanted to work when I wanted, I wanted to be able to afford what I wanted when I wanted it. I don't give up on what I want. I had no clue how to go about it or what I was going to do when I decided to leave the company, with little money to live on. Guess what I got?
Do not let anyone tell you can't do/have something or why (Many people have done that to me most of my life, yet most of them are the ones the do not have everything they want, and cannot do anything they want.). Do not give up and show them you can. It may not be instant, it may not be easy, but you will be happy and it will be worth it when you get it.
Now the big question is...
What do you really want? You can do them, and you can have them. Not just you, anyone.
Need proof? Look at all the things that could not be done since it was impossible to do them, that have been done. People with a good perspective and the perseverance to see it through, achieve the impossible all the time.[/quote]
that's great wisdom you know. I wonder if you are willing to share how specifically you dig in and find out what you really want. Not some of the normal stuff that are in our heads due to the reason we allow them to be there but are not our own choices.
Some of us been trained loooong years to seek security, job and all sort of familiar things. How you find what is really in your heart. Say one loves trading. Trading itself is means to get to something else something deeper. Trading provides something to traders- achievement enjoyment I don't know. Honestly I don't believe anyone that is long in trading does it for money only. It is not easy and brings quite a lot of setbacks and disappointments initially to leave on the field only people that love it and are very committed.
Thanks
8 Years ago a person I met could not find a job. Was having a hard time paying the bills, was under a lot of pressure. She was stressed and complained about it, like many people do. I will tell you what I told her.
Brace yourself, you may not like it.
You want to find the blame of your problems? Go look in the mirror! You want to complain about the issues your having? Complain about yourself!
Figure out what you want, that is the first step to getting what you want. Figure out what you want that will help you get what you want in step one. That is the second step. Keep repeating. Do not give up until you get what you want originally.
If you are working towards what you want, you will get it. If you are working towards something someone else wants that you do not to in order to try to get it, you normally won't get what you want, nor will they get what your trying to give them.
She wanted to be able to support herself. So she was looking for a job and working for others. She didn't want to work for someone else, she wanted to work for herself.
See the conflict in what she wanted, and what she was doing? See the results she was getting? It was no surprise to me.
When she finally figured out I was not going to accept excuses and reasons why she couldn't nor was I going to let her give up, and she started thinking about ways she could and wanted those as well, and did those instead, she got what she wanted. She owns her own business.
Quit looking at the reasons you cant and reject them when others bring them up. Look at the ways you CAN.
Myself? I am a 9th grade high school dropout. What kind of future did I have when I quit school? It was pretty bleak for me right? Yes, many fail at many different things and have a hard time in life.
Me? In 2000 I wanted a job that required a college degree, and I wanted it at a specific company. I had never worked in the field so had no experience either. At first they would not even talk to me, when they finally did they gave me every reason in the book they would not hire me. Guess what? I wanted that job, I kept at it, I refused to accept their excuses of why I could not get it, I refused to give up on what I wanted.
I got that job with no degree, no experience, with everyone telling me no all along the way including my own friends trying to get me to give up on it. Was it instant? No, it took me almost a year. Was it easy? No. Was it worth it? Yes.
I left that job after 6 years, that was almost 5 years ago. I no longer wanted to work for someone else, I did not want to have to worry about a schedule, I wanted to work when I wanted, I wanted to be able to afford what I wanted when I wanted it. I don't give up on what I want. I had no clue how to go about it or what I was going to do when I decided to leave the company, with little money to live on. Guess what I got?
Do not let anyone tell you can't do/have something or why (Many people have done that to me most of my life, yet most of them are the ones the do not have everything they want, and cannot do anything they want.). Do not give up and show them you can. It may not be instant, it may not be easy, but you will be happy and it will be worth it when you get it.
Now the big question is...
What do you really want? You can do them, and you can have them. Not just you, anyone.
Need proof? Look at all the things that could not be done since it was impossible to do them, that have been done. People with a good perspective and the perseverance to see it through, achieve the impossible all the time.[/quote]