DislikedSL, I thouht I had to respond to this, so here it goes, don't take it the wrong way.
The rules of the society/culture carry far more weight than those particular rules in that situation to those particular monks, for the lady to disgrace herself by not following tradition on the way to her groom would be catastrophic. But by a monk agreeing to carry her across even though it went against certain rules of their order, simply meant doing a good deed for the overall good of the lady. So you see he had to sacrifice his rules in order for the lady not to sacrifice hers. But as soon as he was done he had let go of that as something that took place but nothing more. It was an action against his rules, but it was something that he had no choice in. Hence mind over matter analogy, sometimes we might do things that are out of our control, but we must be able to let them go in order to move on and concentrate in the NOW, the moment, not dwell in the past.
Hope this clears things up for youIgnored
The monk made a decision based on his discretion.
He determined the overall balance between the greater right and the lesser wrong and made a decision.
A fast decision was made and then the action was not analysed anymore.
Great thread FTI
Many thanks