8 Years ago a person I met could not find a job. Was having a hard time paying the bills, was under a lot of pressure. She was stressed and complained about it, like many people do. I will tell you what I told her.
Brace yourself, you may not like it.
You want to find the blame of your problems? Go look in the mirror! You want to complain about the issues your having? Complain about yourself!
Figure out what you want, that is the first step to getting what you want. Figure out what you want that will help you get what you want in step...Ignored
So, definately, figuring out what you want is the first step.
I appreciate all of the great advice I'm finding on this site. Definitely helping me meet the goals I've actualized!