Reprogram your mind for success - Accountability partner(s)

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Hello fellow traders,
I'm looking for someone who understands or at least believes that success in trading for living has a little to do with a system, but mostly to do with mindset.

If you have a live account trading experience, can day trade live during Asian or/and first half of the EU session and are willing to take the leap into discovering what's stopping you from making money trading and are willing to work every day on reprogramming your mind, please keep reading…

I have done a lot of research over the last year about what's really stopping me from making a lot of money, because my system, developed over the last 3 years by watching and understanding market behaviors and correlations, is not responsible for it.

I found that everything is inside my mind. Van K. Tharp in his book Trade your way to financial freedom wrote:
“You do not trade the markets, you trade your beliefs about the markets."
I would add to it that you trade also your beliefs about money in general, you trade your beliefs about your self-worth, about life, about your deservingness, about rich people etc. (do your own research about how your "Limiting beliefs" shapes your life)
On top of that you also trade your past money traumas and stuck emotions from the past events like fear, shame, embarrassment, anger, guilt, aloneness etc. The more you get rid of the rubbish you accumulated over the years, the better you will feel, the better human being you will become and the better you will trade.

So I'm giving a few examples of:

Some financial and other traumas which can significantly affect your whole life including trading:
- You lost some money in the past
- You lost someone close to you in the past
- You were born by c-section, being alone parted from your mother, left in an incubator for long time - seriously, this trauma can negatively affect your whole life if you won't get rid of it
- Any physical or mental abuse
- Money were stolen from you
- Debting (house mortgage is usually no problem)
- You wasted money
- You made a mistake and lost some money
- Etc.

Limiting beliefs (usually acquired during childhood from family members, teachers etc. + beliefs formed after trading experience):
- Money is the root of all evil
- Money doesn't grow on trees
- Making money is hard
- I don't deserve to be rich, successful etc.
- I am not worthy (of success) etc.
- Rich people are bad and greedy
- I have to work hard to make money
- Trading is hard
- Making money trading is hard

Stuck emotions:
- Shame of losing money in the past
- Fear of losing money trading
- Fear of change
- Fear of change your identity
- Fear of change from scarcity mindset to abundance mindset
- Anger at yourself for your past failures or bad things you have done, or you think it was bad
- Anger at other people who have done something bad to you or you think it was bad
- For the spiritual people: anger at God, Universe…
- And many more…

I believe that the main reason why so many traders are looking for winning systems, trading alerts, automatic trading systems etc., is they want to avoid as much as possible to deal with their mindset, to take the responsibility for their own trading and handling their emotions. If you have to trade your own system you are "on your own" and it's all your responsibility if you lose, no one to blame plus the fear of uncertainty - basically the whole programming kicks in and people suffer when trading, feeling fear, being anxious and make insane trading decisions which will eventually wipe out their accounts or they wake up early enough that there is still something left to take back into their lives.

Basically many traders try to trade and once they go live, they absorb any negative emotions when they have a losing trade and also when the market goes against their SL and they feel anxious. If they have quite a sensitive personality or the money they are trading is important for them, they will experience a small money trauma with every losing trade. Once many small traumas stack up and it's too much for the mind to take, they quit and unless the accumulated emotions are released through some mind work using some healing techniques, they will never get back to trading again. It's very natural behavior because the human mind wants to avoid pain experienced in the past.
They usually end up saying something like: Trading is not for me, I was not made for trading, trading is hard, only people with a big capital can make money trading, etc.

My friend who never worked for anyone, first made money from playing poker online and now being 10+ years full time trader told me that he estimates that only about 1% of traders can actually make money long term and make it their only income.
Many people can make money trading on paper, but once the money is real and the mind kicks in, it's a totally different ball game.

There are more than 1% of people who can actually make money trading, but once they reach some amount of profit their mindset (deserving set point, etc.) is not compatible with, they will give it back to the market. Last week I talked to one options trader and he made $200.000 within a few months starting only with a $10.000 account, but gave everything back ending up with only $8.000 before he stopped and realized he has to change his mindset. Some people can really make money trading, but they can't keep the money and grow it further.

We have to do something differently than the mainstream approach to trading is if we want to enter the elite. Doing what everyone is doing never leads to anything spectacular.

If you still think that I'm sane and what I'm writing about is sane and worth exploring and would be willing to spend at least an hour a day doing the mind work and would be willing to share with me your progress daily through messenger and have a video call once a week or so, please send me a PM or if you want to ask anything first, please reply here.
I have been doing my daily reprogramming using 2 healing techniques for the last 3 months + for the last 2 weeks I'm focusing on money and trading and I can see really nice changes in my life already. I'm happy to share everything I learned if you are really serious and willing to deal with your own past. If you are a spiritual person or have some experience with meditations or handling your emotions, it's gonna be easier to start.

Also, there is an identity factor that will kick in when you start your reprogramming journey and try to make a major shift in your life. You will experience resistance to keep doing the mind work, but I know techniques on how to deal with it and that's another reason for the accountability partnership.

Looking forward to your replies.

UPDATE:
For more information continue reading posts Nr. 16, 18, 20, 21, 30 and 35.

Just the tip of the iceberg.

The Four Self-Limiting Beliefs that Sabotage Your Trading Performances

http://www.fxtradermagazine.com/trad...rformances.php

Good points

I am very sceptical of what you telling right now. But still, I say "good points" because I understand that my mind is limited. Otherwise, I would be a billionaire. Or at least have 500k on the account. I see I am not a billionaire and have no 500k capital. So I admit my thinking might be wrong

Is it ok if I will dedicate to this 100 usd on an account? Let's make it to 400k in 1 year. If you will help me achieve that - will give you 20% of 400k. Can it work out so?

One of the reasons so many traders fail is having unrealistic goals...

Hi,

even though I find, IMHO, the analysis a bit over thought, I totally agree that the mindset is the most important in trading.

If it was just intelligence, there would be much more successful traders.

And about only 1% that make it long term I do agree too.

Limiting beliefs...? maybe.. Meditate 1 month. Get right mindset. Make 1 profitable deal. Then double. And so 12 months in a row. If you are less limited then 12 weeks. Or 12 days. Or 12 hours... Its all about mindset defined limitations...

Lol, yeah ok, if that's what you're calling the right mindset..., that's actually the wrong mindset.

What is wrong with that? What limitations are there?

Well, I guess there is no limit to one's imagination.

But you are definitely limiting yourself with these unrealistic expectations.

I am not throwing you the stone there, don't get me wrong.

I understand you're still on a journey, but in trading only the destination counts.

Once you will get more experience in trading you will understand.

"The fruits of the tree of experience are sweet but the roots are bitter".

Your journey is only at the beginning...

Basically you said that your strategy is profitable but because of your mindset you are forking it up, leading to loss, right?

If I am right about what I understood about your post, then let me tell you that you will probably never be able to beat your emotions.

Only way would be to avoid emotions, not fighting nor controlling them.

Without a proven profitable technical system, patience and discipline are hard to apply because we don’t know what to wait for and what to adhere to.
Just like in other professions, focusing on the technicals should be the first step. We can then develop our own “unique style” to deal with the problems in that profession.
So, to be successful in trading, reprogram your mind and efforts to develop your own unique proven profitable technical strategy ...

"unrealistic goals" is one of the limitations from the list mentioned in post nr1 like "Trading is hard" or "Making money trading is hard"

one more limited thinking "It is not possible to get from 100 usd to 400k usd in 1 year".

The author of this thread has a method when you destroy all limitations and become successful.

to get from 100 to 400k you need 12 profitable trades in a row:

Deal 1: 100 => 200
Deal 2: 200 => 400
Deal 3: 400 => 800
...
Deal 12: 204800 => 409600

Maybe there exists in 1 year 12 profitable deals with RR 1:1? You think not possible to make 12 profitable trades in year? Maybe all the rest is overtrading and when you learn to focus or learn "to be calm" then you don't jump in bad trades but make only 12 good entries - and that's it - go away with 400k in the pocket.

12 sounds not very much... 1 year sounds reasonable time to filter out 12 good trades. What is here "unrealistic" ?

Or you can split and not go "all in" in 1 trade but for example trade 1 week to be 100% profits. For example see this my demo when I traded 1 week and get 100% profits. Then you need 12 such weeks in a row.

Sky is only the limit as you will read in the success story I'm presenting in my post under. Just some mind work might be needed before it becomes possible. Never let anyone tell you that something is impossible…

Realistic expectation and self-sabotage control is important, but when you learn from other success stories what people were able to achieve, you know it's possible for you as well once you put the work into it.

I can see you are already trading live so you can just keep trading and see how you will improve as you will progress with the mind work.

Starting trading forex with $100 is a good start to test your psychology and you won't ruin your account if you trade around 10pips SL, micro lot, risking just 1% of your account on a single trade. Once you make the change and start being consistently profitable by doing the mind work, you can suddenly skyrocket as the trader in the article so your idea about making 1000% a year might be in fact possible. Highly unlikely before changing the mindset, but possible...
Actually, about 10 years ago one friend made over 1000% over a year of trading commodities and made like 200k, but his mindset about money was not compatible with being rich, so he gave it back eventually. He quit his 9-5 job when he thought he was on top of the game, but had to become employed again. ( That's why I am saying it's not about the system, it's about the mindset.

Last year, when I started to do some techniques for attracting abundance, written in books like Think and Grow Rich, I started to notice some new elements of market behaviour which I couldn't see before and people couldn't find people talk about online, like how some fx pairs surprisingly highly correlate and when some group of correlated pairs become overbought, other group become oversold and you get ready for a reversal trade because you are likely on top of SR or SD zone....., or how some pairs amazingly respect round numbers (+-3pips) so you can do reversal trade or if there is push break, you go for a flip trade (very high RRR), I could understand where people have loads of OPEN ORDERS so market will react there, where there is a void of liquidity so market will likely shoot through and make a bigger move etc. I started to see all the stuff after I changed my mind, nothing came to me from outside, so the mindset first, after the system. ))

I'm sharing in the long post under the 1% which I can, the tools, the rest 99% of the work must be done by yourself. If you find it helpful and it will change your life, you can send me a gift.

Just a thought on demo trading for others, it doesn't make sense once you can use the trading platform and understand money management (Van K. Tharp). It's better to lose $1 on a trade if you can afford it and learn to handle your emotions than playing with virtual money IMHO. Of course some basic trading strategy like supply demand + price action to start needed.

Well, thanks for telling us we are wrong, won't be probably able to achieve something or how our ideas are unrealistic. You are already becoming a sensei in this forum… :-D

Avoiding emotions doesn’t lead to a solution. Going through the emotions, feeling it and releasing it is the best way IMHO, so it won't affect your life anymore. You can't just swipe the rubbish under the carpet and think it's no longer there. It will come up eventually. It might take decades to come up in it's full power, but it can and in many forms including mental or physical disease.

I experienced a lot in my life, accumulated many traumas and releasing most of the attached emotions to it made my life so much better that I don't need any "external stimulants" to feel inner happiness and joy anymore. Also, I can already see I'm progressing in my trading by doing the mind work so I know within the next 6-12 months I will be financially free…

To everyone,

I'm going all out with the information I found helpful over the years, so please go through it, try it on yourself if you are brave enough to look inside… and if you would be looking for someone to walk the journey together, send me a PM. If more people would be interested (I already have 2 people interested) I'm thinking about making a small group (max. 5 people) who could support each other on our transformation journey (telegram or discord + group zoom calls).

Just to make sure…. all the stuff I'm sharing here is completely free except for some small fee for the authors of the books. I'm not offering any services here, just looking for someone to share, help and be each other's accountable partner(s).

To introduce what is possible if one puts the work into reprogramming mind I'm sharing with you a story of a trader who achieved a massive success. The technique he was using is called EFT tapping, developed more than 30 years ago. The method itself looks weird because we tap on our meridian points which release emotions. In the US it's officially approved for treating PTSD and used to help war veterans with their traumas. It's also used for treating phobias and other issues. There are over 100 studies now including many MRI brain scans which scientifically proved it's working. It can work really fast on recent events, but it gets more complex on old events so it requires regular practice for an extended period of time, usually months to make a big identity change.

I personally used it after I had a big earthquake trauma after which I didn't want to go back home, because I was scared that an even bigger earthquake might come. I used the method for 15 minutes and since then I don't fear EQs anymore. Wish it would be that easy to use for making money )))

Here is a video on how it works in reality on serious life traumas. It can be used on any trauma or limiting beliefs to treat. Emotional attachments to money, fear of losing etc. You can tap while watching markets and it will instantly calm you down once you allow yourself to feel the emotions and don't run from it.



Here's the story of the stock trader who achieved an incredible shift after using EFT. He put some serious work into it though.

https://www.eftuniverse.com/abundanc...-stock-trading

I'm currently using a newer method called "Intention tapping" which was developed by Australian psychologist Steve Wells and which has part of EFT tapping included in it but it's more powerful. I also combine it with one more method called "BSFF - Be set free fast" developed by US clinical psychologist Larry P. Nims.

You can learn Intention tapping from this website + Youtube videos dated within the last 12 months. It's quite easy to learn and you can start tapping right away.

You can start with sentences like "I release all my emotional attachments to (making) money" and see what happens, where it will guide you.
Or you can try "I release all my emotional attachments to making x000 USD a month trading" and see what issue will come up for you. It's just an example on how to start using the Intention tapping method once you learn the basics.

https://intentiontapping.com/about/



As for the BSFF method, I recommend the original book + one more book from Joan Sotkin who is using the BSFF as a method in her book. She has been a finance coach for 30+ years, helping people who struggle with money, so her life experience shared in the book and her podcasts are priceless.

She charges $500 for one therapy session, not affordable for many people, so I decided to start with the step-by-step strategy from her book which she recommended to start with when I emailed her. She also has about 500 podcasts to listen to. There are about 25 really good podcasts from this year where she speaks about personal development and money. It's not an interview, just her. She is making another podcasts interviewing other successful people, but I haven't listened to it yet.

https://www.amazon.com/Build-Your-Mo...2724417&sr=8-3

https://www.prosperityplace.com/prod...al-manual-pdf/

Here are four bonus video podcasts to watch. If you can connect to the information presented and it makes sense for you, we are likely to match. In my opinion this is the top information on personal development out there.

In general, doing meditations daily is really good for keeping yourself calmer and more focused, but it won't resolve the past traumas and limiting beliefs, so more deep work and other strategies like IT or BSFF is usually needed.

Joe Dispenza, presented under though, has developed very powerful guided meditations I would highly recommend to try. I'm doing his short morning and evening meditation and abundance meditation which are all great as his other meditations. He also measured effects of his meditations using MRI brain scans and EEG plus other diagnostic tools, so it's all proofed. The science behind it is all online.

How to Unlock the Full Potential of Your Mind | Dr. Joe Dispenza on Impact Theory


Is Your Self-Identity Limiting Your Potential? | Vusi Thembekwayo


Psychologist Shows You How to Reset Your Personality and Redefine Yourself | Benjamin Hardy


The Zen Millionaire’s Secret to Creating Abundance | Ken Honda


Even if you don't have the confidence at the moment to commit yourself to some partnership, please give these techniques a try. It's life changing once you overcome the initial resistance and do it for weeks every day. I made a huge progress already in some other areas of my life and the money - trading part is the last one to resolve for me. It's usually the most challenging part to transform, because transforming the mindset about money is actually not just about money… as written in the book "Build your money muscles."

There are so many people on Forexfactory forum with so many different views on life, trading, limiting beliefs, possibility to change one's identity, etc., so I don't want to get to any discussion here or even argue with anyone here or push my own ideas against someone's anymore so I likely won't reply to any posts.
It blows my mind how people can spend their precious life time which never comes back arguing and pushing their "narrative" for hours, days and years on discussion forums....

If you like what I shared and are willing to try and put time and dedication into it and want to discuss any further, just send me a PM.

If I am able to help even one of you sharing this, half of my mission is accomplished.

I wish you all the best on your journey to becoming a better version of yourself.

First of all, congratulations on your new thread!
I've been on FF for a long time now, never made any contributions because i had nothing to contribute to, my trading has been a major rollercoaster ride.
But that is on the brink of change, and I can find myself in everything you say.
I also recognise a good quality material when i see one.
Having said that, in my case at least, the two most important hills that i had to conquer in order to get my shit together were Self-sabotage and Not having the Right Mindset. I used to tell myself one trade per pair! Then i get a losing trade and soon enough i find myself overtrading and taking trades out of revenge...pointless... and the history kept repeating itself.
My breakthrough came in March. After a bad session of losing trades and questioning myself about what the heck am I doing and why I'm not able to make it, suddenly a switch turned on. And I started to think at trading as in fighting for my freedom. And it worked.
Suddenly discipline kicks in.
No more trading the account, but trade the setup.
Stick to my flippin' rules.
And the results are gradually coming. Just as they should.
I'm 100% sure this thread will be a major success sharing platform in the months to come.
And remember people: nothing good comes easy. Keep fighting, keep grinding, you will get there.

RESISTANCE AND FEAR OF CHANGE

!!!Important thoughts on resistance and fear of change! Better safe than sorry!!!

Because you are interested in what I shared and you keep reading, I want to help you even further. This information about a probable resistance to change you will encounter might be crucial.

There will of course be more levels and variations about resistance and fear of change, but I wanted to outline a few possible outcomes and levels.

LEVEL - Hard one
"This is all bs and I don't believe in it. I need to find the right trading system, trading signals etc to make money."
The information I shared is totally outside of someone's belief system.

LEVEL - Less hard
"There is something about it and I want to give it a go."
You try to do the mind work, but find it's too emotionally challenging for you and quit almost immediately. (You might want to ask for the help of a Intention tapping therapist if the techniques on dealing with the initial resistance in the books won't be enough to deal with it).

LEVEL - Middle
"I will do it!"
You start doing it and make an initial progress, but since you are trying to change the whole identity you give up after a week or a few weeks.

LEVEL - Less resistance or strong desire to change
"This will finally change my life. Let's go!"
You start doing it and encounter resistance from your subconscious which is trying to push you to quit. Fortunately it's not that strong or your willingness and desire for a better life is strong enough to push through and you stick with it until it's done. Congratulations!

LEVEL - No resistance
There is highly likely nobody who wouldn't encounter any resistance, so get ready it will come and it can come in many forms.

Symptoms of resistance and fear of change.
- You will suddenly start having a bad sleep and will feel too tired to do any mind work
- You become sick, catch a cold or something else which will temporarily prevent you from doing the mind work and you will not come back to it after recovery
- Becoming super busy at your regular work
- Mental (feelings of overwhelm, confusion, feeling lost etc.)
- Etc

If you use the right strategies on how to deal with resistance from the 2 books I shared, you will give yourself much better chances to succeed.

Extract from the book Build your money muscles.

In order for us to attract more wealth and abundance into our lives, we need to focus on making two energetic changes: (1) we need to lower our resistance, and (2) we need to raise our vibration. Blocks to abundance start in our energy system – so it stands to reason that we need an “energy technique” to clear them!

Effective exercise programs include conditioning routines to assist in adapting to new muscle movements and mental challenges. Likewise, a reliable preparation program for financial fitness incorporates activities that help minimize the discomforts involved in moving to a new financial position. Such discomforts arise largely from encounters with resistance. And because it stimulates ongoing internal and external changes, reaching for an improved financial position provides ample opportunity for resistance.

Most prosperity seekers, while wanting their lives to improve significantly, resist change because they derive comfort from the relatively predictable financial patterns they have known. But, unwilling to endure temporary discomfort, they remain blocked from achieving financial satisfaction and freedom. Fortunately, by understanding the factors prompting your resistance and by consciously preparing for change, you can gradually alter the habitual thoughts, beliefs, emotions, and behaviors that are keeping you stuck in your current financial position.

A primary reason for resistance rests with what I have named the Identity Factor, an internal mechanism that protects a person's concept of who they are and their place in the world. Moving to a new financial position, which can easily threaten one's sense of self, often activates the Identity Factor. When this happens people typically either procrastinate or revert to old behaviors, protecting their familiar lifestyle at all costs, for fear that their desired changes, when they finally do occur, will leave them feeling alienated, unsafe, and confused.

A story from the book:
When she first called me, Sharon was disappointed in herself for sabotaging her progress. Once she understood she had been protecting her old identity, however, she realized her actions were not self-sabotaging but self-protective. She saw that because she did not recognize herself as a person who behaved responsibly with money, she had protected her identity by resorting to familiar behaviors with more predictable outcomes. Over time, she learned how to work through the discomfort imposed by changed behaviors and began to develop new thoughts, beliefs, and emotions, all of which helped her recommit to her financial plan.

Along with threatening a person's self-concept, significant change can also affect peer and family-of-origin relationships. Since people know you as the person you once were, any change in your attitudes or behaviors requires them to respond to you differently, and consequently undergo a change of their own. Friends or family members who are not amenable to changing might try to stymie your progress—a situation likely to compound your discomfort with fears of ultimately being left alone. Fortunately, while conditioning yourself for change you will see that being alone is not inevitable. You can always redefine earlier relationships with friends and family, and also develop new relationships with people reflecting your changed state of being, who will invariably come into your life.

Symptoms include feeling overwhelmed, confused, alone, lost, and likely to misplace things or make unwise decisions. Just as you adapt to your surroundings after moving to a new house, however, the discomforts caused by altered thoughts, beliefs, and emotions and financial behaviors will gradually subside. Embracing this as a sign of progress toward a new financial position can reduce their duration and help propel you forward.

Another reason for resisting the summons to be more responsible financially is fear of losing one's identity along with accustomed positions in one's peer group or family of origin. For people who have had a long-term dysfunctional relationship with money, establishing new financial behaviors means developing unfamiliar personality traits, which can be disorienting and require major adjustments in lifestyle.

Disclaimer:
I'm not a psychologist or Trading Coach. I'm a certified Life coach, personal trainer and nutritionist focusing on Wellness coaching and trading for myself. I studied psychology and social psychology at the university and psychology and personal development has been my hobby for the last 10 years. I tried many techniques over the years, spent 3 months meditating in India doing 100 hours of vipassana + other therapies, but resistance and fear of change was the main reason which prevented me from taking consistent actions to make a significant change, identity change, so I could consequently take my trading and coaching business to an elite level.

There are other methods you might want to look into, but the two I shared are easy to learn, almost for free and you can do the work straight away at home.

Some other not free, but could be faster approaches you might want to explore are:
- Hoffman process
- 40 years of zen
- Joe Dispenza retreat
- Wim Hof retreat
+ the big one
Joe Rogan & Dorian Yates on DMT and Ayahuasca (watch from 5:00)




There is nothing wrong with you.
https://healthcoachkatie.com/2019/11...rong-with-you/

All the best.

Thanks for the post.
I'm glad you can feel you are moving in the right direction. I hope some of the stuff I shared will help you even further, so just a few thoughts on what could help.

You might want to try the Intention tapping and explore how you feel about deserving more money, about being worth more money than you are making now.

You can tap and say or you can just relax and say it without tapping:
"I deserve to be making x000 USD a month trading" and see how you feel about it.

Your subconscious mind might give you a straight reply: No you don't! )) or it's hard etc…. And you will know there is some work needed to release what's blocking you… Why you think you don't deserve it, etc...

So you start the Intention tapping and say: "I release all my emotional attachments to I don't deserve to be making x000 USD trading" and you just follow what comes up…. Detailed instructions in the webinars.

You can then continue with saying:
"I am worthy of making x000 USD a month trading" and see what your subconscious will say on it or how you will feel about it, etc. etc.

It will usually take you to some past events or it will show you some other limiting beliefs you might have to deal with. Once you start dealing with connected limiting beliefs, you might be again led to some past events where the limiting beliefs were created. Once you release the emotional attachments to all aspects of major negative past events you might make a huge progress towards what you want and how you feel during the day.

As for limiting beliefs you might want to explore and complete the sentences:

Life is….
I am…..
I deserve….
People are….
Trading is….
Making money trading is…
Rich people are…
Etc…

It's not a logical process, it's what comes up first in your mind. You don't think about it before you finish the sentence.

I used to believe Life is hard. Really not good to have this kinda belief… ))

All the best.

FEAR OF SUCCESS is as real as fear of failure.

You won’t know you have a fear of success until you look inside. It messed up my attempts to succeed for years until this week. Not anymore!

Having a strong fear of success is like going on a vacation by car, but pressing the gas and brake pedals at the same time. It’s really hard to get there. Having both fear of success and fear of failure at the same time can totally block any chances you will ever make it as a trader.

WATCH THIS! The most spot on explanation I came across!


As he said, people are addicted to struggle, to stay in the known and avoid going to the unknown. It’s basically the same as Joe Dispenza is saying in the video I posted earlier.

When you become successful
- You might be criticized
- Your friends might leave you
- Your family might be outside your new mindset and life standard and you will become distant
- You will have to leave your group of average and stand out
- You will stand out
- When you were a child, something bad happened after you were successful at something, so your subconscious connected being successful with pain

Other explanation of Fear of Success
https://www.healthline.com/health/an...ess#definition



Find out if you are afraid of success
https://www.thetappingsolution.com/e...ar-of-success/



I released my fear of success by using the Intention tapping and BSFF method I was writing about earlier.

I hope it helps.