DislikedThe Key i believe is psychology. You need to have complete faith in the quality of your system/plan. So much that emotion will be little , you will simply be entering setups you have found to be more probable through back testing...Ignored
The best way to overcome the emotional aspect of trading is to make it matter as little as possible. I understand this is your dream, but you need to change your approach to achieve different results. Trade the minimum 0.01 lots per trade until you get three profitable months in a row. That will probably take years, but it will eventually happen if you remove the emotional aspects of your trades. These trades are so small that it really doesn't affect your future if you win or lose so at least in some sense, they don't matter. When the trades don't matter, you can let go of the emotions and concentrate on improving your system and skills. Once you get 3 months profitable in a row, increase your trade size by an increment so small that whether you win or lose, it still wont matter, like to 0.02 lots per trade. When you get another profitable 3 months in a row, and that may take years, make another increase in your trade size, but always keep it small enough that it doesn't matter, that is it wont change your lifestyle if you win or lose.
By the time you make 3 or 4 tiny increases after being profitable for the previous 3 months in a row, you'll know how to avoid the emotional hell of being constantly whip sawed back and forth between the exhilaration of great wins and the deep depression of crushing losses. Of course there is always a price to be paid. The price of this method is accepting that it will probably take you years to reach your goals and when you do, it wont be nearly as much fun as you dreamed. It will just be a job where you show up to take on a bit of risk from the market and you are well paid if you manage it wisely. That's ok with me. My job may be mostly boring, but I'll get my fun in a few weeks on a beach in the Caribbean and my boring job of managing market risk will pay for it all.
One final bit of advice. When you are finally successful, people will constantly ask you about it and then beg you to invest their money for them. The way to avoid this is only tell your friends about your worst trades, how terrible market conditions are, etc. Otherwise, trading their money will spoil the entire process (because it matters) and it might take years to recover from that mistake. Best success! - G